The RULES

The words you use about your past decide how much of it you carry with you.

How standards drift without you noticing, why comparing gets you nowhere, and why sometimes the bar needs to come down.

Why we make excuses, the four ways we do it, and the one question that makes most of them go quiet.

The stories you tell about yourself become the legs your beliefs stand on, so build them on purpose.

Your memory deletes, distorts and replicates. How to catch it, and why one good counterexample is all you need.

The five hidden rules behind almost every decision you make, and the two lists I’d write before you go looking for yours.